The oldest of three children in an unstable family, Drenda began looking out for her mom and siblings at a very young age. She felt responsible for keeping her family happy and intact, a daunting task for a young girl.
During an era where a woman’s role in society was being fiercely challenged, Drenda leaned hard into performing well, “competing with the boys,” and accomplishing goals like being class president all four years of high school, or Class Valedictorian at her senior graduation. She sought approval and validation in romantic relationships that often left her feeling broken and used.
The pressures of “being good enough” were overwhelming, and Drenda eventually became suicidal as she struggled with loneliness, overwhelmed with making sense of who she was and what path she needed to take in life.
At her lowest point, Drenda reached out to God and began going to church. Being part of a local community gave her perspective and helped her see that she wanted to create a different kind of life than the one she grew up knowing. She felt called to go to college at ORU in Tulsa, Oklahoma, wanting to have a successful career and deepen her walk with God.
She met her husband Gary her freshman year at ORU, and within a couple of years, she was married, pregnant, and struggling to navigate life as a wife without a traditional career. She had no sense of how to be a good partner for her husband. Early years of married life felt like a life bootcamp, and she and Gary struggled.
In her heart, Drenda wanted a happy family, and she committed to learning how to do it God’s way. Through the early years of raising their children, mounting debt and wrestling to make ends meet, Drenda and Gary made a lot of mistakes -- and learned some profound lessons.
They had five kids. Started a family business. Got out of debt. Built and paid off their family dream home. Started Faith Life Church in New Albany, Ohio, where she didn’t take a salary for ten years.
Drenda channeled her drive for achieving into creating a business with her husband, launching the church and many ministries within the church. Along the way, she and Gary learned how to be better partners for each other and their marriage strengthened. Together, they began supporting other families in finding their way out of debt and into marriages that were happier and stronger.
Drenda’s personal stories of struggle and overcoming resonate with women, and she is known for her ability to inspire, empower and encourage other women to improve their marriages and embrace the strength of their feminine spirit. Today, Drenda is a speaker, pastor, television personality and author. Her books include, The New Vintage Family, Better Than You Think and She Gets It.
Her church, Faith Life Church, hosts local and international marriage conferences and sponsors both Fixing the Money Thing, which Drenda co-hosts with her husband Gary, and Drenda, her daytime talk show.
Drenda has ministered on television and radio, and at churches, seminars, and conferences for more than 20 years. She is mother of 5 children and 6 grandchildren, and she lives in New Albany, Ohio.